The holidays can be a very confusing time of the year for families that do not celebrate Christmas. Th ere are many families that do not celebrate for religious or non-religious reasons. But it isn’t easy for some to ignore the signs of Christmas, which are all around during the holiday season, whether it's the constant loop of traditional holiday movies, or the Santa Clause at the mall, or the festivities centered on Christmas at work and at school.

For some of these families − mine being one of them − we choose to participate in the non-religious aspect of the holidays. Perhaps still putting up a Christmas tree, exchanging gifts, and taking pictures with Santa, it’s important to explain to your children that you are participatways to copeing, but not in the religious sense. This works if your children are old enough to comprehend the religious aspect. Otherwise, most children would be happy to partake in the fun, light-hearted holiday activities. Of course, there are some families that do not want to participate in any aspect, and for them, here are some suggestions to help in coping during the holidays as a non-celebrator:

TAKE A VACATION. It might be a great time to get away from the Christmas atmosphere and go somewhere that does not have that traditional holiday touch − somewhere warm, perhaps the Caribbean or maybe somewhere overseas where Christmas is not a primary holiday.

It’s easy to get distracted from the holidays when you are vacationing and even gets the kids to focus more on the vacation then the holidays. You can sometimes fi nd great deals or getaways during the holidays. Airfare can be less expensive if you fl y on Christmas or Christmas Eve. So plan ahead and save your vacation for the holiday season.

TECHNOLOGY BREAK. Tuning yourself out and having your family power down from the internet, TV, and electronics might be a good way to avoid the holiday season if you don’t celebrate. It’s also a great opportunity to bond and create other ways to unite as a family. It’s a good time to read, enjoy conversations, and maybe just sit around and play some board games.

CHINESE RESTAURANTS. Most restaurants are closed during Christmas or Christmas Eve, but sometimes you can find a Chinese restaurant open at which you can dine. In most cases, you may find other families dining out who do not celebrate Christmas. This can be a dining option or you can have your own family dinner for no special occasion.

VOLUNTEER. Th is might be a great activity for you and your family. Get in the spirit by providing a service to others. If you do not celebrate, but want something to do that involves helping others, then volunteering can be a great outlet for you. Th ere are plenty of charities during the holiday season that need volunteers to help with holiday events, collections, and delivering goods to the needy. This might be a great option for those who don't mind being involved with the holidays, and is a great way to participate in a non-religious sense.

TRADITIONS. This can be a great opportunity for you and your family to create your own traditions. Whether or not you want to link it to the holiday season or put your own spin on things is entirely up to you. One thing is for sure—the holidays are a great time to celebrate family by spending time together. Try hosting a family dinner with your own traditional cuisine and sit around the table, telling stories. Maybe exchange gifts in appreciation for one another. Th ere are many ways that you can build your own traditions and provide something exciting for your family to look forward to during the holiday season. Th e holiday season doesn’t have to be difficult for those families that do not celebrate Christmas. Hopefully you can incorporate some of these ideas to make this holiday season special for you and your family.

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ROSANNA AKHAVAN
Rosanna AKHAVAN was born and raised in Northern Virginia. She attended George Mason University and graduated in 2001 with a Bachelor's Degree in political science, all the while participating in extracurricular activities such as art, dance, journalism, and creative writing. She has been a freelance writer for various publications since 2003.