Sex matters....a lot.  But if you're the proud parents of a new baby, nights can be sleepless and sexless. Are you stumped by the state of your sex life?  When it coms to talking with our partners about what's really going, or not, more and more of us find ourselves tongue tied and tip-toeing.

The changes that parenthood brings can often leave your partner feeling rejected, dejected, angry and spiteful. While you might be hoping to fall into bed and snatch a few moments of precious, uninterrupted sleep, your partner may have other plans.  And as he's pressing his body against yours, hoping to act on that tiny window of opportunity, you're thinking, "You've got to be kidding me.  How can he even think of sex.  There's no way!"

 

Although he might have turned down the baby monitor, inevitably the first feeble wails begin, which your body cannot ignore.  You race to feed the baby; he turns away and faces the wall.

 

No one warns us that having a baby is like the excitement of falling in love all over again, except with someone much younger and better smelling!  No one warns us that having a baby is dangerously similiar to having an affair.

The truth is, for many of us trying to figure out what happened to our once level libidos, we might miss wanting sex, but we don't actually miss having sex. We're even afraid of accidentally brushing up against our partners in bed, least it send the wrong message.  Sound familiar?

Some of us get caught up in giving too much to others, not getting regular exercise, falling more in love with our children and a little out of love with our partners and losing that wonderful intimacy that holds a relationship together like glue, ensuring that you are more than just roommates.

What to do?  Start talking about it.  Really talk about it.  Let him know he's really your number one love.  Let him know that the baby that displaced him will eventually wean and sleep and one day leave the nest and you will turn to him once again (hopefully long before the nest-leaving!)  Talking about sex can actually lead to having sex. Parents can give their children everything, but nothing is a substitute for parental happiness.