I am really glad you asked that question!! You didn't reveal much about your marriage, and so I'm going to answer in the hopes that there are no medical or emotional issues preventing you from being intimate together. And most experts agree that couples shouldn't let more than 2 weeks go by without having sex.


That being said, I can totally relate to your question. It is normal for women to be affected by physical and psychological factors- more so than men, and this can take a toll on sexual desire. Libidos can drop faster than the housing market, and if you have small children, your touch needs are probably used up before your spouse comes home from work. What's a girl to do?

Before you say "Not tonight, honey", try a little something I learned from a sex therapist aptly named Joy. She suggests using the same body language and tone of voice you'd use if you were saying yes. Instead of immediately shooing away his advances, enjoy if for a bit. Try and give in to the sensations and touches. Maybe what you really desire is a foot massage, or having your hair brushed, or some other form of foreplay. Slow, relaxing, and non-sexual massages can help stoke the passion. Just don't let the fires go out completely.

If all else fails, kiss him sweetly, tell him how much you love him and desire him, and set the alarm 30 minutes earlier for an early-morning romp he won't soon forget!! Or slip a sexy I.O.U. in his briefcase and plan something you'll both enjoy later!!