Romance Guru

They say opposites attract — and that may be true when it comes to your conflict style. How do you approach conflict? Do you avoid your partner like the plague when things aren't going well, or do you pick a fight wherever and whenever you can? Opposing styles are an especially common source of trouble for couples since, like many aspects of marriage, there is no "right" way to be. Like sex itself, good conflict resolution is a matter of compatibility.

Opposing styles of conflict often come down to two approaches: the avoider and the confronter. Avoiders dislike conflict, and feel uncomfortable discussing negative aspects of their relationship or their life. Avoiders don't necessarily deny what's wrong — they just don't feel the need to talk it out. This might be fine, if it weren't for all the avoiders who wind up in relationships with confronters! To a confronter, not getting underlying issues out in the open is frustrating, even intolerable. Confronters tend to come from families who expressed what they were feeling — sometimes too much — and not getting everything out on the table feels dishonest and uncomfortable.

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