I AM Modern Magazine for Moms

Who hasn't longed for some quiet time alone, soaking in a tub filled with fragrant bath oil, soft music playing, maybe some candles, and the latest issue of Oprah to read? We have such high expectations for ourselves, but sometimes we find it difficult to carve out some personal time to recharge our physical and emotional batteries. Most women feel it's selfish to think about their own needs, especially if there are young children in the house.

Romance probably takes the biggest hit and gets moved to the bottom of the 'to do' list. Do you suddenly have a headache at the thought of making love to your partner? Would you happily turn your hubby in for a brand new blender? Would you like to rekindle the romance but simply don't know how to get from the stress of the day to the romance of the evening?

What was once about just the two of you — fun, spontaneity, impulsivity, sex whenever you felt like it, juggling only each other’s schedules — now becomes much more complicated. And romance becomes just another task. Many couples find it difficult enough to negotiate between just the two of them let alone when they have a third, fourth or fifth person whose needs must be met.

And women, here's something you probably never realized-- you might be spending all day at home with babies or toddlers, and your 'touch' needs are being met, so when your partner comes home at the end of the day, the last thing you want is more touching, even if it's a non-sexual caress.

Here's a suggestion, one I jokingly refer to as 'choreplay'! If your partner gave you some time to recharge, and sent you off to that long soak in the tub while he fed or bathed or read to the kids, or maybe cleaned up the dishes, too (OK, it's possible!!), wouldn't that make it possible to relax, maybe get ready for a little romance, or even slip into something sexy? (Ditch that old flannel nightgown!)

Choreplay is the new foreplay, and it's certainly worth trying!

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I'm all for choreplay!
written by Lee VG, February 20, 2008

Amy, this is all so true! It often seems that after a long day of work, then taking and picking up from practice or whatever, then dinner, laundry, etc., etc.... all I really want is to SLEEP!!! I know I could take the time to take that luxurious bath, but then all of the chores remain undone, so it's not really relaxing. Choreplay? I love it!!! Could work.

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written by Jennifer, February 20, 2008

Amy, I love it! I hope Choreplay catches on. Keep up the good words.

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