Q: My daughter is not talented. She sings horribly. Yet, she wants classes that are expensive and in my opinion, not worthwhile. what do I do? Do I nurture her desire or tell her the hard facts?
A: Dear Helpless Mom, This is a toughie.  As you know, nurturing a child's creativity is so important, and these kinds of activities can be confidence boosters, but in the long run doesn't end up being positive if false hope is being instilled and a big let down is in store. I appreciate your instinct to be honest with your daughter, so talk to her honestly about her goals and the realities of pursuing music on a professional track - make sure she knows that although they make it look easy, not everyone gets the chance to be the next American Idol! Look for activities that will nurture her love of singing and the joy it brings her, but that will be low impact cost-wise for you; school chorus or musicals, church choir, classes through local rec centers vs. private lessons. Keep in touch with choir directors and instructors to see if she’s making progress. Her abilities may grow with some instruction, and she can learn a lot from the feedback she gets, and enjoy the benefits of creative expression.

Best wishes,

Mary